When your marriage is falling apart, you may find yourself in the midst of an emotional storm. You could feel a range of emotions, including grief, anger and resentment. At such times, it is easy to result to name-calling and bickering, and you may have a strong desire to fight relentlessly to make your ex miserable.
While these are normal feelings to experience, you should not give in to them. Instead, you should be the better person during divorce. Here are a few motivating factors for taking the high road while you and your spouse separate:
1. You will feel better
Your emotions may be telling you to lash out, but any sense of relief you may feel by being negative will be fleeting and will not make you happier. In fact, you are the person who will benefit most from taking the high road. You will have a sense of fulfillment from doing what is right instead of dealing with constant arguing and guilt.
2. It will make your divorce faster and cheaper
Aside from feeling better about yourself, being respectful and cooperative does wonders for the divorce process. You spend less time arguing over things that do not matter. This dramatically shortens the duration of the divorce and may reduce the amount of money you spend.
3. Your children are paying attention
Divorce is a traumatic process for your children to experience. Remember that they are watching your every move and listening to every word. Avoid saying bad things about your ex to them or arguing while they are present. By being a kind person throughout your divorce, you lessen the pain your kids have to go through and become a good model for them to follow.
Dealing with a divorce is never a walk in the park. But if you refuse to take the bait, you can have a less stressful separation.